Domestic Violence, Low Self-Esteem, Insecurity

Domestic Violence, Low Self-Esteem, Insecurity

Domestic violence is a fact for millions of people around the world. The victim of domestic violence can be a spouse (in marriage), a parent, a child or an intimate partner. Violence can take many forms, including physical violence, molestation, threats, controlling behavior, depriving the partner of food or money, etc. As a result of these, the victim often develops anxiety, depression, and other disorders, sometimes attempting suicide. The majority of them experience panic attacks and suffer from panic disorders. Other victims suffer from agoraphobia and acute neurosis. Back and waist pain are also common. Some victims of domestic violence have eating disorders and stop eating because of stress.

People who fall victims to domestic violence have a low self-esteem. They often saw abusive behavior in their family and internalized it. They get involved in an abusive relationship and if they manage to leave the abuser, they get into the next abusive relationship. It's a behavioral pattern. Victims already know how to live in abusive relationships. Without realizing it, that gives them a sense of security. Such people don't know how to behave in harmonious relationships as they have never seen or had one.

It is a fact that the majority of victims of domestic violence are women. Unfortunately, children also suffer on seeing acts of violence in the family and sometimes, they are abused as well. Women rarely tell to their parents about the cases of violence. They are ashamed and afraid that their partner might get angry. For these reasons, they almost never call the police.

Most abusive people have a low self-esteem too. Their bursts of aggression are a sign of insecurity. They feel threatened by their partners and 'fight back'.

Victims are caught in a vicious circle. The abuser apologizes to his spouse, kisses her, they have great sex, and the abused partner is ready to forgive. Until the next abusive episode that follows. The abuser may have strong feelings toward his partner and love her very much. But abuse is a fact, and it happens over and over.

What to do if you are in an abusive relationship? It is best to walk out of it. The responsibility for leaving this vicious cycle is all yours. If your partner has recognized the problem, insist that he consults a professional and signs for an anger management therapy.



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